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How was your weekend? What little things have you been enjoying/eating/watching/reading lately? As the spring turns into summer, I figured I’d share a few observations from life in Brooklyn…
At my friend Linsey’s house, I noticed that she’d framed her daughter’s artwork. How cute is that? Great reminder to ask for help before you yelp.
If you live in Brooklyn, consider going to brunch at Le Crocodile in Williamsburg. Nothing better than their cheesy croque madame with a bright green salad. (Now inspired to make this vinaigrette.)
How great is my friend Liz’s T-shirt? She wore it to at my house with some friends…
…and when Toby got home, he adorably held court. May we all have the confidence of a 14-year-old boy!
Keep spotting Converse high-tops around, and I really like the way they look with cropped jeans in the summer.
Toby had two baseball games this weekend, and I ADORE his coach. Instead of shouting and yelling and stomping, he’s so warm and thoughtful. He emails long, gripping recaps of each game, complimenting each player and giving pep talks. One recent dispatch said, “Sometimes in baseball, you have a day where nothing goes right, but we can take solace in the fact that we weren’t in the dugout with [the other coach], whom despite holding a massive lead was screaming instructions at his players at every opportunity. (At one point, his son yelled back, ‘It’s only a game, Dad! It’s not a court case!’).” Love the sentiment! These knock-around games are for FUN!
That’s it, haha! What have you been up to lately? Have you eaten anything delicious? Watched anything good? What glimmers have you noticed? I’d love to hear…
P.S. The trick of life, five things I noticed at a drinks party, and what’s your pro tip?
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Laura Fenton
June 27, 2024 9:38 pm
Would love to know about Linsey’s upholstery fabric: It is EXACTLY what I have been looking for!
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Ann
June 6, 2024 11:49 pm
My glimmer has been catching up with a friend who I haven’t chatted with for nearly 20 years. Found him on LinkedIn, and we have been pen palling all week on the life chapters we missed.
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Lulu
June 6, 2024 5:03 pm
I am on a hiking vacation in Südtirol (northern Alps in Italy) and nature can be just so amazing 🤩 On a hike up the mountain at 3.000m there was still snow and it’s June! It was fabulous to hike in the snow with a T-shirt on. For the first time in years I felt at peace in nature ☺️
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Anon
June 6, 2024 11:08 am
My glimmer: my baby boy turned six months old yesterday, and I’m FINALLY starting to feel like myself again. Cheers to postpartum therapists and the right Zoloft dose.
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Susan
June 5, 2024 9:06 pm
Since we finished school two weeks ago our days have been filled to the brim in the best way. I have seen every wonderful friend I know and have gone to pools, parks, beaches, libraries, an opera and even played Bingo at a movie theater and won a free movie pass. I am holding tight to this joyful feeling that I finally found my people. As a homeschooling stay at home parent it feels like my days are long! This break feels nice.
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Angela
June 5, 2024 1:09 pm
I’m IN LOVE with Rosie’s Rules. Since Linsey is a graphic designer, any chance she’d be willing to make a print of that? I would gladly purchase one to put in our kids play room.
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Martha
June 4, 2024 10:22 pm
Since you asked….I made some delicious Kalua Pork this weekend…and it is so easy! Put a 4 lb Pork shoulder blade roast in the crock pot. Sprinkle pink salt all over ( or any kind will work). Add 1 TB Liquid Smoke. Cook on low for 8-10 hours, then shred. Especially delicious with sauteed pineapple. Melt a tablespoon of butter in a saute pan, add 1 TB brown sugar. Add about 2 c. fresh pineapple chunks. Saute and het through, and enjoy with the pork. The flavor combo of the warm pineapple and salty and smoky pork is amazing!
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S.T.
June 4, 2024 6:20 pm
I have to get this off my chest. I’m a coach of an under 12 (so they’re 11) girls soccer team, and sometimes I find it really frustrating and annoying how into it all the parents are! It seems like they see it as a legitimate form of entertainment. They’re cheering and watching with great attention and interest. I know this seems like it would be a good thing, and maybe is and it’s just me, but I think kids would benefit from their parents paying a little bit less attention to their games. Even though it is usually all very supportive and positive, having a big group of adults paying that much attention puts pressure on. I certainly feel, in some way that I can’t quite put my finger on, under pressure.
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Whitney
Reply to S.T.
June 5, 2024 6:24 am
Yes this resonates with me!! We are not in the sports world (my kids are 7 and almost 5) but I think in general kids are watched far too closely. Everything they say and do is documented and commented on. It’s overwhelming! Kids should have space to just play and enjoy themselves. They become so reliant on adult approval and it destroys their confidence and autonomy.
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Lauren,
Reply to S.T.
June 5, 2024 10:07 am
I’m just curious if you’re also a parent? As a parent I just can’t keep from cheering my kid on ! Especially the younger ages that are being so brave and trying so hard.
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S.T.
Reply to S.T.
June 5, 2024 6:04 pm
Yes, I’m also a parent of one of the players.
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Rae
Reply to S.T.
June 5, 2024 10:15 pm
Thank you for saying this S.T! I have been showing up late, & even skipping, some of my daughter’s matches because I can see how the team parents ramp up the stress at games. I love hearing the play by play on the ride home from my daughter and her friends. It’s in their words and through their eyes. And they often have complaints about other teammates parents who cheer too loudly only for their own kiddos or immediately critique their child’s performance and give un-asked-for advice.
It sounds like you are trying to create a respectful space for the kids to compete. That is what I hope sports is for my kids.
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Alli
June 4, 2024 4:38 pm
My partner and I have been getting into whitewater rafting the past few summers and progressively taking on bigger and more challenging rapids. Last year I had a really scary, close-call swim after getting tossed out of the boat in a big class IV rapid, and it really shook me. I have always been so confident in all kinds of bodies of water, but after that incident I could feel fear in the back of my mind every time I was in open water. Last weekend we were on the river, on a challenging section with high water flows, and once again, I got bucked out of the boat and ended up going for a swim in the biggest rapid on the river (another class IV). But you know what? It was totally fine! I didn’t lose my cool and didn’t make any bad decisions. I was back in the boat in no time and felt SO relieved to have a successful swim under my belt. My glimmer: I felt more like my old self in the water my confidence is coming back!
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Helen
Reply to Alli
June 5, 2024 9:59 am
Oh my god good for you!!! I got dunked learning to surf in high school and while I continued to love swimming, I never really got over my fear of big waves and the feeling of being rolled around under water, unable to get out. Proud of you for facing it and may your confidence continue to grow!!
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Amy
Reply to Alli
June 5, 2024 11:09 am
You are so cool, Alli!
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Kee
June 4, 2024 3:31 pm
Glimmer: Went to a cooking school and took a cooking class with my husband for date night. First time we’ve ever done anything like that. We had a blast!
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Kee
June 4, 2024 3:29 pm
Where’s the cute little palm leave vase from???
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Kay
June 4, 2024 1:56 pm
My glimmer this week was nailing some challenging salsa footwork. I took up salsa about a year ago and omgiloveitsomuch, but its so challenging. I felt like I plateaued, and was worried I’d never advance, and finally, FINALLY, this monster of a shine clicked for me and I’ve got it. Even feeling confident enough to bust it out at a salsa social this week, go me :)
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PNW Grateful
June 4, 2024 1:10 pm
I was in a store last week, when a group of older teens came skipping through the store together. What joy ! Everyone in the vicinity started clapping. It was great to see.
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Courtney
June 4, 2024 12:20 pm
That coach sounds so great! My husband coached our daughter’s softball team last year and one of the philosophies he had was “Coach with information, not with volume.”
Converse must be making a come back … my daughter (11) just bought the exact same pair I had when I was her age (hot pink high tops!). But she got them customized at an Etsy store with floral embroidery, so she is way cooler than me.
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Denise
June 4, 2024 11:26 am
Eeesh, I just accidentally posted a TikTok link without any explanation. If you want to laugh and smile all day, please watch Makin’ Bacon Pancakes on repeat!
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Susan
Reply to Denise
June 4, 2024 2:24 pm
love this!
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jennifer
Reply to Denise
June 5, 2024 8:05 pm
I can’t stop singing makin’ bacon pancakes now and I’m not complaining.
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Denise
June 4, 2024 11:25 am
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Rebecca
June 4, 2024 11:16 am
As someone who does not live in a big city….what’s it like to have giant open windows in your street-level living room? I love having lots of natural light, but even the chance of people on the sidewalk 40 feet from my house makes me think twice about walking downstairs in my underwear to get something from the laundry. Maybe this is only a Midwestern problem, lol!
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Anon
Reply to Rebecca
June 6, 2024 8:41 am
Hello! I have curtains over my street level window and most of the street level apartments I pass have shades or curtains. There isn’t a lot of natural light that comes in anyway, since there are buildings nearby. I do miss having a lot of natural light! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Anon
Reply to Rebecca
June 6, 2024 11:12 am
This made me laugh a little because I lived in LA for 10 years, and people there kind of have this understanding of like, don’t look into windows (or cars, because yes we do spend that much time in traffic) except okay maybe a quick glance and then look away. Anyway, I got used to walking around my house however I liked, curtains open, knowing people wouldn’t look in. But last year my husband and I moved to a small-ish town on the central coast and people 100% look into windows here! I’ve learned this the hard way, making eye contact through my wide-open front window with neighbors while in my underwear/topless… more than once! Eek!!
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Jen
June 4, 2024 10:37 am
This morning my kids asked for special mom/kid dates. <3
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Alli
June 4, 2024 10:30 am
Big Glimmer: wearing my YouSwim suit for the first time this weekend (after the recommendation from Big Salad a few weeks ago) and feeling GREAT in it. Sooooo comfy, which says a lot from someone who is rarely comfortable in a suit. YAY! Although I see they’ve got a striking orangey-red color coming out later this week so now I just might have to buy a second one…. ;)
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Katie B.
June 4, 2024 9:53 am
My glimmer for the day: Having a hair stylist that gives your hair a glow up AND your spirit.
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Tracy
Reply to Katie B.
June 7, 2024 5:39 pm
AMEN!
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Lily
June 4, 2024 9:09 am
Those flowers are gorg. And I recognize the bowls and plates from your dinner gathering, from following this blog for so long! Where is that really great, long, skinny, olive serving plate?? Lol, that was my first thought when seeing that picture! I was like, my heart misses it! Something’s missing!
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Mel
June 4, 2024 9:01 am
After 4 years of intense early summer heat and drought we’re finally having a normal Minnesota summer – 70’s, thunderstorms, lots of rain. We’re avid gardeners having converted most of our yard to a bustling pollinator garden and it is THRIVING this year. Every day my husband and I take multiple walks around the yard. Our 4 and 7 yo girls know more flower names than you can imagine. The other night we drank tea on the front covered patio watching a storm roll through and fall on our years of hard work and it was glorious. And if that’s not enough the wisteria is blooming on the trellis we put behind our hot tub. on year 2! it’s a miracle (they usually take years to bloom).
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Kay
Reply to Mel
June 4, 2024 1:18 pm
Mel, this sounds like paradise. What a dream. enjoy, enjoy!
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Shannon
Reply to Mel
June 4, 2024 1:23 pm
Hi Mel,
That sounds beautiful! Do you have any resources on converting your yard to a pollinator garden. I am dreaming of doing the same!
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Jackie
Reply to Mel
June 4, 2024 9:59 pm
I live in MN too and this made me smile. I’m loving the rain! Sounds like you’re living in my dream home!!
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Amy
Reply to Mel
June 5, 2024 12:14 pm
fellow minnesotan here – loving the rain for my yard, but stressed every time about getting water in my basem*nt!!!!!!! we’ve had some big storms! my goal this year is fixing the issues that are contributing to water in the basem*nt, i’m tired of the stress.
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Tracy
Reply to Mel
June 7, 2024 5:41 pm
I used to live in MN since my birth, now live in CO and I miss watching the summer thunderstorms roll in.
If we have any rain here it only seems to last no more than 40 minutes :)
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Claire
June 4, 2024 8:28 am
My college graduate son is home and it’s wonderful to have him, and there are many hugs.
And yesterday I was in the produce section of a grocery store and there were two boys, ages maybe 8 and 10yo, following their dad around with the grocery cart. They had each inflated a plastic produce bag and were bopping them around like balloons. As I went zooming by one came my way so I bopped it back. Kid was delighted, reflexes and teamwork were on point. My inner crowd went wild, we were some genuine contenders in the potato aisle.
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Amanda
June 4, 2024 5:45 am
I had to laugh as I was reading this, at the time I was currently under the covers in bed eating a slice of lemon cake with lemon frosting and getting ready to catch up on some shows at about 10:30am…Im a teacher just starting her summer break. Lol.
I had ran all the *business hours only*errands that I can’t do during the school year(no personal time off!) and just settling in for the first of many naps this summer.
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Jordan
Reply to Amanda
June 4, 2024 12:42 pm
Ah, enjoy the start to your sweet summer, Amanda. And a massive THANK YOU for all you and your fellow teachers do all year!!!
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Rena
June 4, 2024 4:27 am
Love reading all of these!
My glimmers are going to a farmers market with family and friends Saturday morning and eating a delicious hand pie! So yummy!
Then enjoying a wonderful visit w my awesome brother and his partner. So much love and laughter! My brother is an amazing piano player and last summer after a 20 plus yr break, I started playing my flute again. So we played together and taped it for our dad. It was wonderful!!
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Esss
June 3, 2024 11:46 pm
My kiddos first ever soccer game with a coach as positive and constructive as Toby’s as the little kids ran in mayhem and scored goals for the other team
A coaching session that came just at the right time with a convergence of work challenges
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Mariah
June 3, 2024 11:01 pm
I was coming off a difficult week and had a kid-free weekend (daughter was with her Dad). I was feeling disconnected and semi-disgruntled with the man I’ve been dating, mostly for some minor communication blips and lack of alignment in our schedules lately. I was questioning if I should continue seeing him. When we finally saw each other Friday, I spoke up, brought up that I’d been struggling and asked for connection and support, something I had stopped trying to do in my former marriage and am working on doing more in this new phase of life. WIN for me!
BUT THEN he patiently listened, brought out some Non-Violent Communication lists of needs and feelings to help me articulate myself and made me feel very heard, understood and supported. Then in the last few days he made multiple lovely gestures to help us be more connected. Dear reader, I’m still dating him. Shocker.
That’s maybe more than a glimmer, but felt like it was worth sharing!
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Omm
Reply to Mariah
June 4, 2024 4:51 pm
This is so good! Did he produce an actual list? Could you possibly share it?
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Y C
June 3, 2024 9:29 pm
Middle school teacher here. Just graduated a class of 8th graders and was feeling pretty level headed until one of the students left a small note in the graduation program for me reading “thank you for showing me I could change.” I was overcome.
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Naomi
Reply to Y C
June 4, 2024 12:28 pm
Wow, teachers are the best :)
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Amy
Reply to Y C
June 4, 2024 6:06 pm
Sob! YC this is so lovely!
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Kim
Reply to Y C
June 5, 2024 12:27 pm
Really profound.
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Laura
June 3, 2024 8:42 pm
Please make this a recurring series <3
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Clou
June 3, 2024 8:41 pm
Spent a wonderful afternoon with chosen family who are visiting from outside the country. There are a mix of cousins 14, 16, and 19 years old who lift our spirits and our hope for the world. They are encouraged and challenged by their parents, they are silly, engaged, and excited about their futures. They encourage us to live our lives the same way.
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Mariah
June 3, 2024 8:22 pm
My glimmers this week – a very long lunch with a very good friend, finished scraping and priming our new, very small house, and I’m starting to come out of an IBS flare. My flowers really want to bloom – just need some sun – and I’m very excited about that.
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June 3, 2024 8:22 pm
Just started my second trimester (first pregnancy!!) and got to see bebe moving and beating its strong and mighty heart today! I’ve had a few ultrasounds and every single one just blows my mind and makes my heart grow a million more times. I’ve never known this kind of love, and to share it with my husband, well, I’m just glowing from the inside out :)
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Amy
Reply to Erica
June 4, 2024 6:07 pm
Congrats Erica!!! That’s so exciting, and I totally hear you – it’s like you tap into a new plane of love when you’re having a kid
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Laurel
June 3, 2024 7:56 pm
My sister called this morning to say she’s headed to the hospital to make me an aunt for the 1st time! 💕
Good vibes and thoughts as she’s a couple of weeks early.
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Laurel
Reply to Laurel
June 3, 2024 9:08 pm
My glimmer :)
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Anon
June 3, 2024 7:02 pm
My glimmer – seeing hope in my marriage that has felt hopeless since having kids. We’re putting it all out on the table and no longer avoiding the hard conversations and figuring out what we both want. I don’t know where this will end but it feels better than the anxiety around avoiding the elephant in the room. Having babies/toddlers is so hard on our marriage but it doesn’t seem like it is for anyone else around me. (I know this is not true but damn it feels lonely here.)
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El
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 7:22 pm
It is!! Here with validation x 1000. No advice, no solution. Just sitting with you here.
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Julie
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 7:35 pm
As a parent of two young toddlers and another baby on the way, I couldn’t agree more. Our marriage is hard right now. There is often a lot more stress and anger and being so tired than there is love and enjoyment, but we perservere. You’re not alone. I wish more couples talked about it, because we can’t be alone, but how would we know? No one seems to say it if they are…
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N.D.
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 8:20 pm
Definitely read Miranda July’s new novel: All Fours. Even if you don’t relate to the specifics of the main character’s needs as a woman, there is much truth in it about precisely your situation. I am listening to the audiobook, which she narrates, and it is amazing.
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Anon
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 8:23 pm
Our marriage was THE hardest after having a baby- it was so rough on us, especially during the newborn stage. I hear you!
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Joyce
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 8:31 pm
I had a friend tell me once, when I was pregnant with my first: “The first year of my baby’s life was NOT the high point of my marriage. Probably the low point so far.” Even that one comment gave me so much validation in the early years (which I am still in.) This sh*t is HARD on a marriage. There’s a clip of Michelle Obama saying she hated her husband for about a decade, when they had young kids, even though she’s always loved him. ha! you’re not alone.
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Libbynan
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 9:11 pm
A big part of the problem is social media. Everyone is only posting their good times and your life looks lousy by comparison. Fifty years ago when I was having babies, we expected it to be hard and it was. When we talked to our friends on the phone, we bitched nonstop. We knew all of us were in the same boat. We were part of a community and we had each other’s backs.
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Lana
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 9:27 pm
Rooting for you, no matter what the outcome is. My husband and I are nearing twenty years together and it’s been a long, (sometimes heartbreaking) to discover we don’t parent the same and have different expectations of our kids (14,9,6). Sometimes I wonder if our entire reason for being together was to make these beautiful kids. We’re so far a part right now and it’s hard to admit, but I don’t know if I actually want to be closer again. Sometimes I think life apart would be better for all of us.
Sorry to hijack your post. I just want you to know you’re not alone and I think happiness can be found at the end of either outcome. Hang in there!
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Nicole
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 10:15 pm
So True !!! Parent of 2 young kiddos and its super hard. For me it is helpful to try and remember to see my partner as a partner and not just a co-parent. But its crazy hard. Proud of you for speaking up for what you need in your marriage.
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Cye
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 11:10 pm
Yep. Spot on. Nobody talks about it and the early years are so relentless.
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Lisa
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 12:09 am
The original quote is on this site somewhere, but I’ll say it again: “Your partner is not the enemy, the baby is the enemy.”
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Lisa
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 12:11 am
I found it!
“ A very useful phrase to repeat whenever you start to ask why your baby is doing something confusing and unpredictable: ‘Babies be babies.’ (I think I’ll put this on a needlepoint pillow if I have another child.) And a very useful phrase to repeat when you find yourself turning to your spouse blamefully: Your spouse is not the enemy. The baby is the enemy.”
It’s worth reading this whole entry:
https://cupofjo.com/2013/06/17/5-beautiful-motherhood-tips/
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Anon
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 12:42 am
Right there with you! You are most certainly not alone. Also, can someone please explain how to be intimate with your partner when you’ve got a baby strapped to you 24/7 and a toddler ?! That’s been the biggest adjustment we feel like there is NO time for us right now. Woof it’s brutal! All that to say you aren’t alone :)
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Ellen
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 4:43 am
Our hardest stretch yet since #2 arrived, no question. You’re definitely not alone. Sending love and hope as you work through.
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Amanda
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 5:51 am
Sitting here with you on this. You’re not alone!
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Emily
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 8:10 am
yay!!!! that is so hard. the same thing happened to me, you’re definitely not alone.
we’re on the other side of it, and therapy helped a lot. every marriage is different, but having young kids is so challenging in every way.
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Jackie
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 10:17 am
I think it’s great that you’re having these conversations; the worst time in my own marriage was for sure when we had a baby and a toddler. It was just so physically exhausting, and yes, so, so lonely. Almost 20 years later, it gives us stories to tell and a time we look back on with a bit of pride and a lot of relief – it was crazy-hard! Wishing you all the best.
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Jen
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 10:29 am
@Joanna Goddard, it would be lovely to see a post about this stage of life, and how different people manage the tensions/joys with their partners. :)
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Jen
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 10:44 am
Right here with you as well.
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Anon
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 12:33 pm
Original poster here – tearing up at the replies. Best community.
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Christina
Reply to Anon
June 6, 2024 10:33 pm
Yes! I have a 4 and 2 year old, live in another country that’s not my own (Australia, I’m Canadian) and I feel isolated enough without my lifelong friends and family, but my husband is deep into an engineering degree, depressed and stressed, and I feel like I don’t have any deep connections with anyone anymore. All he talks about is school, and if I try to bring up interesting things I learned, or conversations I’ve had with someone, all I get is ‘huh’ or ‘oh yeah’ and I feel so lonely! I worry a lot that we’ve fallen out of love and we’ll never get back what we had for five years pre-children.
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Tracy
Reply to Anon
June 7, 2024 5:49 pm
Thank you for saying this!
I’m a stay at home Mom if a toddler and I feel the exact same. No one seems to talk about this and it can feel very lonely.
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Emma
Reply to Anon
June 9, 2024 5:11 pm
I’m here too….1yo and 3yo. There have been a few moments in the past few months when I’ve thought our marriage might not survive this phase. It’s so hard. Love to all of cupofjo readers who are going through this.
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Caitlin
June 3, 2024 7:01 pm
This morning my four year old daughter declared that it was her favorite lovey’s birthday. So we spent the day baking a cake and planning a party and making birthday cards for a well-loved stuffed raccoon. It was a delightful way to spend the first day of summer break!
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Christina
June 3, 2024 6:37 pm
Toby’s coach sounds like a wonderful inspiration! Glimmer: The Bear Season 3 in late June!
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Sara
June 3, 2024 6:34 pm
Hahahah I spotted Toby on the way to his baseball game in the park while I was on the phone crying to my mom and was like oh! there’s Joanna’s son! and then kept crying
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Joanna Goddard
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Reply to Sara
June 3, 2024 6:39 pm
omg that is so sweet!! awwwww
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Lorraine
June 3, 2024 6:14 pm
I went to my 7-year-old daughter’s piano recital yesterday, and she did so well! It’s been a joy to relive my own childhood piano experience, this time as a parent. I love sitting in the teacher’ cluttered living room during lessons, and the recitals can be long and a bit nerve wracking (those stumbly pauses!). Truly loved hearing one kid play the entirety of Fur Elise, which I know by heart.
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Rebekah
Reply to Lorraine
June 3, 2024 6:25 pm
I don’t play, but my 8yo started lessons last summer. She’s taken to it like a fish in water, and I love having the house filled with music. The recitals are the best – SO earnest and pure sweetness. My face hurts from smiling the whole evening.
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Allie
June 3, 2024 6:08 pm
Love to read these glimmers! Saw Babes & had a dinner with my bff, sending out save the dates for our February wedding (bonus-the post office ladies were SO excited when we bought the stamps, so sweet)!!
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A M L
June 3, 2024 5:53 pm
Set up a coffee meeting with a realtor, as a first time home buyer! We have a toddler and can’t wait to find a home that will be ours
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Joanna Goddard
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Reply to A M L
June 3, 2024 6:40 pm
how exciting!!!!
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phoebe
Reply to A M L
June 4, 2024 7:27 am
I’m closing on a house today!!
My advice: have way more money loose than you think you need. Nobody tells you there’s an extra 20k or so on top of a down payment that you’re gonna need immediately for insurance, appraisal, inspection, down payment, etc, etc. Also look for a realtor that is experienced af. It’s brutal out there but it’s possible! You got this.
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phoebe
Reply to A M L
June 4, 2024 7:28 am
I mean closing costs not down payment
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A M L
Reply to A M L
June 4, 2024 2:24 pm
Thank you for the tips Phoebe! Congrats on your new home :)
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Kim J
June 3, 2024 5:44 pm
I took my daughter to a bunch of birthday parties this weekend and I’m shocked I’m saying this, it was so fun to see her with her friends. They are eight years old and screaming Taylor Swift lyrics over and over but they are also a lot of magic, giggles and secrets whispered in the ear.
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Lauren
June 3, 2024 5:42 pm
I am grateful for posts like this. I’m having a really hard 2024 – it’s been one really hard/sad thing after another – and I’m not seeing many glimmers. I thought hard to come up with this:
I started working with a personal trainer three times a week. She consistently tells me I’m strong, and it makes me feel so good. She’ll say, “Let’s start lifting this weight because you’re strong.” “Let’s start with this kettlebell because your RDL is strong.” “I’m impressed you help the plank for that long. You’re strong.” Friends, I’m below-average fitness right now, but, in those moments, I do feel strong.
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Joanna Goddard
Author
Reply to Lauren
June 3, 2024 6:41 pm
wow, I love this, Lauren. good for you!!!
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Katie
Reply to Lauren
June 3, 2024 7:55 pm
Lauren, this is amazing and inspiring! You are so strong.
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Bonnie
Reply to Lauren
June 4, 2024 7:59 am
Lauren, I think you’re strong for the step of seeking out a personal trainer.
I’m sorry this year has been a tough one; I hope things lighten up for you and you see and experience more bright spots and lightness.
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Bea
Reply to Lauren
June 4, 2024 8:06 am
As someone having a hard 2024, working out has really improved my life this year. I work out in my basem*nt with Peloton, but it has provided me with an overall sense of calm that I can’t seem to recreate elsewhere right now. I’m happy for you, Lauren. You are strong. The fact that you are showing up and doing the thing speaks to your strength.
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A N
Reply to Lauren
June 4, 2024 8:30 am
this is fantastic! good for you, Lauren! we’re proud of you and you ARE strong.
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Dottie
Reply to Lauren
June 4, 2024 3:53 pm
Lauren, you are amazing for being able to take charge of things and work with a trainer three times a week. She’s right, you are strong.
Best wishes for a better half to the year.
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Cy
Reply to Lauren
June 5, 2024 6:30 pm
My personal trainer is like a therapist too! After nursing my dad for a few years until he passed, taking on the family trust and all its responsibilities; I needed to do something for me. Self car and stress release. I’m so glad you are giving this gift to yourself. Wishing you a brighter and hopefully more ease in your future!
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Anon
Reply to Lauren
June 6, 2024 8:49 am
Lauren, congrats! Planks are HARD – you are strong!
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Ceridwen
June 3, 2024 5:38 pm
Watching British comedy with my teen and seeing my preteen make incredible friendship bracelets as well as being excited in a low key way about the Guts Tour; she got tix and she and her Dad are going!
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Lori H
June 3, 2024 5:34 pm
On Apple TV. we are loving the show Trying. Short episodes (too short, they leave me wanting more!) We are on Season 3 and could not love it more – funny and sweet! I recommend having the subtitles on – accents!
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Laura
June 3, 2024 5:34 pm
I went to my very first music festival last night! Andrew Bird and Fleet Foxes (who are my passionate forevermore favorites of all time). The VIP fairies were on duty, and we saw the FF from (almost) the front row. And no mosquito bites or rude people!
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Laura
Reply to Laura
June 3, 2024 8:46 pm
Andrew Bird is so incredible live!!!
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Rebecca
June 3, 2024 5:30 pm
Does Linsey have a suggestion for online framing? Or a source for good (not-too-expensive) frames? :) “Try before you cry.” So good. :)
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Joanna Goddard
Author
Reply to Rebecca
June 3, 2024 6:41 pm
I’ll ask her! I really like framebridge. you can also find frames on eBay and then get custom mats cut to fit your photo.
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Kate
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June 4, 2024 5:06 am
These are great too if you want to have a place to display and rotate through their artwork as it comes in🙂 https://www.projectmontessori.com/products/kids-art-frame
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Mandy
Reply to Rebecca
June 4, 2024 10:20 am
Framebridge is the best. But, if you have pictures on your phone a less expensive but good alternative is Keepsake.
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Becka
Reply to Rebecca
June 4, 2024 11:51 am
Please consider supporting a local frame shop if you have one. True framers are artists and we’re losing them.
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Lauren O
June 3, 2024 5:19 pm
Last week was “short,” given the holiday weekend preceding it, but somehow felt several thousand years long?
I had an unexpected, almost-zero-notice reunion with a sorta-friend from high school (I was the goth who asked him to prom, he was the king of campus who said no and ended up regretting it, it was the John Hughes movie that wasn’t). It turns out the real ending to a story like that is that you just meet up at a little outdoor cafe table the Lower East Side and laugh together about your weird, ultra-conservative home town and all the stuff you’ve each been through and learned since then, and then you hug and go back to your lives?
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Jenny
Reply to Lauren O
June 3, 2024 5:32 pm
I would watch the sequel to this needs to be a John Hughes flick.
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For today, a cat lady
June 3, 2024 5:17 pm
My glimmer is that one of our cats has been especially loving. We’ve had her for 5 years and for 13 of those was an absolute BEAST – tiny and ferocious but allowed only my husband and me to touch her/pick her up when she decided she was ok with it. Then a year and a half ago she got extremely sick, lost her fur, had weeping skin, just so pathetic and I was terrified we’d lose her. Nursed her back and during that time there was a 1″ patch of fur between her eyebrow whiskers that we could touch with our index finger and she’d tolerate. Now… NOW she seeks my attention, nuzzles me, puts her cheek against mine at night if I’m laying JUST the right way for her to feel safe doing so, and often nearly gets stepped on if she’s trying to rub my legs and I move around in the kitchen. I had been waiting for her to cave in to my love and it took nearly 5,000 days. But FINALLY. Never mind the menopause insomnia that keeps me awake; when she jumps on me at 4 a.m. and wakes me out of a sleep that I never thought would come, I still silently whisper my love for her. She still has her spitfire energy and will snag you or launch onto you with all claws out if she feels threatened (by any squeak – we have the most lubricated hinges!), so these tender moments are my glimmers.
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Lauren O
Reply to For today, a cat lady
June 3, 2024 5:35 pm
Oh how I love this for all of you!
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Katy
Reply to For today, a cat lady
June 3, 2024 6:41 pm
THIS made my day. I am calling it quits now while the going is good.
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Sharvari
Reply to For today, a cat lady
June 6, 2024 11:15 am
It’s so obvious from this description just how much you love your cat, and I love it 🥹
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Erin
June 3, 2024 5:09 pm
I made fruit Caprese salad for the first time this summer: peaches, cherries, shredded basil, fresh mozzarella, olive oil, balsamic vinegar, salt + pepper. So yummy! I had forgotten how much I love it. We snorked it right down.
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ellen
Reply to Erin
June 3, 2024 5:34 pm
👀 snorked!
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Joanna Goddard
Author
Reply to Erin
June 3, 2024 6:41 pm
yummmmmmm
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Jen
June 3, 2024 5:08 pm
I only have one more day of radiation treatment for breast cancer!! I am 40, and I was diagnosed with Stage 1 breast cancer in February. It’s been such a long process–I have been dealing with many complicated health issues since August 2023, including surgery in March. I’m looking forward to recovering and spending more time with my 11 (almost 12) year-old twins!
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Whit
Reply to Jen
June 3, 2024 5:37 pm
CONGRATULATIONS! That is huge.
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Maura
Reply to Jen
June 3, 2024 5:39 pm
Hooray to only one more day! Congratulations Jen!!!
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Rebecca
Reply to Jen
June 3, 2024 5:52 pm
Sending you all the best, Jen! I’m so sorry you have been going through this and so glad to here about this milestone.
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Caitlin
Reply to Jen
June 3, 2024 5:53 pm
Woo-hoooooo!!!!!
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Christa
Reply to Jen
June 3, 2024 6:09 pm
CONGRATULATIONS!!! 🩷🩷🩷
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A N
Reply to Jen
June 4, 2024 8:32 am
amazing news! so happy for you.
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HeatherP
Reply to Jen
June 4, 2024 10:49 am
Amazing!! Well done Jen. Sending much love and healing wishes (from someone who is just over 5yrs clear from my last chemo!!). Hugs xx
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Dottie
Reply to Jen
June 4, 2024 3:51 pm
Congratulations Jen and the very best wishes to you. I hope that you recover quickly and have a wonderful summer with your twins!
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Liz Enge
Reply to Jen
June 4, 2024 10:01 pm
Yay you, Jen! Sending you a big virtual hug!
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Michaela
June 3, 2024 5:00 pm
I got that tee for my daughter’s 18th bday – it has prompted SO MANY great conversations with customers at the bakery where she works. The owner of the bakery interrupted one conversation with a regular customer who was exclaiming about the shirt to mention that my girl plans to study sports management in college. The customer *works at ESPN* and insisted on giving my daughter her cell number + email, along with an open invitation for a tour of ESPN HQ next time we are in Connecticut. Every single thing about this interaction – the owner opening that door, the customer’s generosity – makes me cry happy tears. (Though… it’s graduation week, so what DOESN’T make me cry at the moment?!?!)
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Katherine
Reply to Michaela
June 3, 2024 6:53 pm
Wow, love this!!
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Christina K.
Reply to Michaela
June 4, 2024 9:37 am
As the mother of a daughter who is also studying sports management in college, I love LOVE this story!!
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Becka
Reply to Michaela
June 4, 2024 11:53 am
this is amazing! <3
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Summer
June 3, 2024 4:40 pm
My glimmer: meeting with a fertility specialist to map out a plan for getting pregnant! I am in a queer coupling so this is the very first step to becoming a parent. It feels very hopeful and exciting.
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jannelle sanchez
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Reply to Summer
June 3, 2024 5:07 pm
So excited for you summer, that’s amazing!
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Amanda
June 3, 2024 4:38 pm
My glimmers of late: We’re having a garage built, and I decided to paint it a combination of a mossy green on the bottom and a terracotta orange at the top. It’s not for everyone, but seeing that pop of color in a once-drab backyard just makes me so happy.
Also, my husband and I watched a movie last night with Juliette Binoche, called “The Taste of Things.” It’s a slow burn but so romantic. Highly recommend if you like those kinds of movies.
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Tiffany Cain
Reply to Amanda
June 3, 2024 6:44 pm
This movie is incredible!
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Dottie
Reply to Amanda
June 4, 2024 3:50 pm
I loved that movie and recently blogged about it. Not only is it romantic, the food details are great. Wonderful story.
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Lou
June 3, 2024 4:32 pm
Recently returned from a trip to Omaha. Great town! The zoo there is astounding. The indoor jungle, desert dome, and kingdom of the night exhibit were highlights…but really the whole zoo was next level. There’s a beautiful river walk that goes on forever. We didn’t eat a bad meal and Plank Provisions in Old Market was delicious. Hillier than I imagined and way different than I thought.
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Vanessa
Reply to Lou
June 3, 2024 5:06 pm
aw this warms my heart – I grew up in Omaha, I thought it was the most boring place ever at the time (and I worked at Henry Doorly Zoo every summer as a teen!) but have such appreciation for it now as an underrated city.
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Emily
Reply to Lou
June 3, 2024 5:12 pm
Yay, so happy you enjoyed your time in Omaha. :)
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Kay
Reply to Lou
June 3, 2024 6:10 pm
This makes me super excited for our upcoming trip to Omaha! I’m carving out a full day for the Zoo!
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mary
Reply to Lou
June 4, 2024 8:29 am
YAY! My zoo-loving kid has been talking about the Omaha Zoo for nearly two years (right after we trekked to San Diego for its zoo). We leave in 3 weeks and it makes me so happy to hear it is a destination for other COJers this summer. For kids, or kids at heart, there’s a candy shop in Old Market that we will also hit up.
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Mel
Reply to Lou
June 7, 2024 4:55 pm
Don’t miss Hollywood Candy in the Old Market- can’t describe it…it is more than a candy shop- the collections on display are unlike anything I have ever seen. Completely shocked in the best possible way by Omaha!
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AMK
June 3, 2024 4:31 pm
Glimmer and life goal: my photos will be included in a photo exhibit in a museum! This is a dream realized and I am feeling all the feels. I am also an introverted extrovert and the thought about speaking in front of people about my personal photos is both scary and “I know I can do this, just breath through it and enjoy and take it all in” feeling all at once.
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Jess.
Reply to AMK
June 3, 2024 4:55 pm
AMK, this is wonderful news! Thank you for sharing it with us. So excited that you not only get to share your amazing art but also your amazing thoughts with The People! It’s going to be great! xox
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Ceridwen
Reply to AMK
June 3, 2024 5:34 pm
Congrats AMK!! That’s brilliant!
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Meg
June 3, 2024 4:31 pm
Just wondering if others have advice for what to do if your kid ends up with a coach who isn’t so nice? My son’s baseball coach isn’t very encouraging or supportive.
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Alex
Reply to Meg
June 3, 2024 5:29 pm
We had this situation with my 8 year old daughter in soccer. Her coach only cared about winning, would not give anywhere near equal game time to the kids (they were 8!!!), would not switch them around in different positions for experience. And there was A LOT of yelling. We asked a few other parents how they were seeing things and they agreed that this was not good at all so my husband decided to contact the club manager about it. It did not go well. The club manager supported his coach and none of the other parents would speak up along side us when it came time. We were so disappointed. This was our daughter’s 4th season with this club and she had always had a great experience but this coach totally depleted her love for playing. So when the club manager offered us a refund for the season if we wanted to quit we took it and left the club. Next season we’ll move onto a different club a little bit further drive from our house (if she wants to play).
So after my experience, my advice would be – if your kid still enjoys playing, finish out the season and then next season make sure you sign on to a different team(or club/league) with a different coach. Watch the other coaches in the club/league this season to see who you like better.
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Meg
Reply to Meg
June 7, 2024 8:19 am
Thanks Alex this is my thought too (and similar to our experience in the details). Thank you!
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Amy
June 3, 2024 4:20 pm
Cackling with one of my closest friends at a screening of the new Ilana Glazer and Michelle Buteau movie, “Babes.” Reading a book in the bath, while sipping a glass of wine, surrounded by lit candles. I’ve been taking self-care very seriously since becoming a parent after watching my own mother sacrifice so much of her health and joy to taking care of others: I like to think that I’m modeling balance and self-love for my four-month-old daughter – that she’s deserving of a partner who does their fair share, of rest and joy, of a full life.
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Joanna Goddard
Author
Reply to Amy
June 3, 2024 4:21 pm
yes! babes! so good. and I LOVE that you are aiming for balance as a parent, I believe in that so strongly! we are teaching our children that mothers are people, too! and their hopes/dreams/needs/desires/preferences count! xoxo
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Jenny
Reply to Amy
June 3, 2024 5:41 pm
Such a gift to yourself and your future adult daughter.
As a daughter of a mom who worked herself tirelessly, I followed in her footsteps. Pouring into self care now, but woah am I tired. I’m trying to model it differently now with 4 older children. I often audibly tell myself “it’s never too late to love yourself”
I’m genuinely happy for you.
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Stacey
Reply to Amy
June 4, 2024 1:21 am
Love this! And yes yes yes – I remind myself of that many times when I make the time for a workout or other short time away from my little kids. My mom sacrificed her health to take care of others and it really doesn’t end well. Among other things, it results in more work for the adult daughter taking care of the mother. Go you and go us modeling that balance.
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Heather
June 3, 2024 4:16 pm
Some years ago my friend Emily (who lives in London) was accidentally added to an email chain for a high school softball team in Texas. The emails from the coach were so warm and supportive to the girls, with lots of life reminders big and small (e.g., “remember every day how incredibly strong you are,” or “don’t forget to drink a lot of water today!”). Rather than reply that she’d been added to the email chain in error, she just started forwarding them to her adult friends, who forwarded the emails to their friends… This coach never had any idea!! We can all benefit from a great coach.
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Anne
Reply to Heather
June 3, 2024 7:14 pm
Love this!
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Rachel
Reply to Heather
June 3, 2024 7:18 pm
I love this comment! Thanks for sharing!
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Anna
Reply to Heather
June 3, 2024 8:16 pm
I adore this! It gave me goosebumps! Our words matter and this exemplifies that perfectly.
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A N
Reply to Heather
June 4, 2024 8:34 am
this has ted lasso written all over it!
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Karrie
June 3, 2024 4:10 pm
I made French dip sandwiches for my son and I on Saturday for dinner. I even sautéed onions and green bell peppers to go on them with havarti cheese melted on top. It was a hit and super easy. I might make them again later this week.
I am a big fan of easy dinners.
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Rebecca
June 3, 2024 4:08 pm
My 7 yo daughter has started to say “Oy vey” at the perfect times and its cracking all of us up.
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Lauren
Reply to Rebecca
June 3, 2024 5:33 pm
My very gringo 3yo says “ay yi yi” always with incredible timing. He picked it up from his beloved daycare teacher. It always hits.
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Victoria
June 3, 2024 4:01 pm
We got some bad medical news right before heading out to stay with family. Glimmer is we’ve got a great support system, are in a city with better specialists than we have back home, can stay here for longer than we planned thanks to flexible work, and turns out making plans with busy friends gets easier when you drop a bombshell like this in the text thread. Feeling grateful for all the ways people are showing up for us during this sh*tty time.
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Rebecca
Reply to Victoria
June 3, 2024 6:04 pm
I’m so sorry to hear about the news and so glad you are finding support. Your ability to pick out all of these glimmers is going to serve you well.
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Court
June 3, 2024 3:51 pm
My favorite thing about this summer so far is that my kids are old enough to leave home alone for a bit in the mornings while I head down to the greenbelt for an AM hike. Each time I walk through an invisible spider web stretched across the trail, I know I’m the first person there that day. It feels like a personal ribbon-cutting ceremony just for me.
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Britt
Reply to Court
June 3, 2024 4:31 pm
Oh my gosh, Court. I love the way you positioned walking through an invisible spider web as a personal “ribbon-cutting ceremony”. That’s such a beautiful image to me.
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Wink
Reply to Court
June 4, 2024 8:24 am
Court, I am an arachnophobe and a metaphor-lover, and your web/ribbon cutting description is perfect (and makes me *almost* like spiders)! My son is twelve and giving him (and myself!) more freedom lately has been wonderful glimmer for both of us, I think.
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Christina K.
Reply to Court
June 4, 2024 9:39 am
You’ve somehow turned my least favorite thing about early morning trail runs into a positive moment! Love it.
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Kay
Reply to Court
June 4, 2024 3:07 pm
Ribbon cutting ceremony! I love this so much! Ah can’t wait for my son to come home from school so I can tell him this. He is 8, and recently had a major growth spurt, and this morning as we were heading to the bus stop he walked through a spider web and said, “Oh no! Another spider web! Getting tall is great, except at right at that height where I walk through spider webs with my face!”.
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Dee
June 3, 2024 3:51 pm
I’m a preschool teacher, and this is the last week of school! Excited to be going to a week long meditation retreat in a few weeks.
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Iaia
June 3, 2024 3:46 pm
We binge watched Ted Lasso 3 seasons over the past couple of weeks.
We loved it and we’ll moss it a lot!
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Christina K.
Reply to Iaia
June 4, 2024 9:42 am
I recommend Shrinking as a good follow-up! Brett Goldstein (Roy Kent!) is a writer on the show and it has the same laugh/cry/learn life lessons feel as Ted Lasso!
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Lykke
June 3, 2024 3:35 pm
I randomly dropped by a satellite library in my neighborhood, something I’ve never done. Guess what – I found Jenny’s The Weekday Vegetarians in a bunch of 15 cookbooks. Felt it was a sign from the universe, so I borrowed it home, because CoJ Jenny (right?) and because I’ve been in a rut about cooking weekday dinners, let alone vegetarian ones, for a couple of months now. Her recipes feel so achievable and inspired, I’ve already tried a couple of recipes, love them!
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Jenny Rosenstrach
Editor
Reply to Lykke
June 3, 2024 4:21 pm
This was so nice to read — I’m delighted you like the book and have found it useful! Thanks for writing, Lykke.
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Mandy
Reply to Lykke
June 4, 2024 10:23 am
I second Jenny’s Weekday Vegetarians. It is one that never leaves my counter top. It is properly stained from use!
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Laura
June 3, 2024 3:34 pm
My glimmer – I volunteer in the infant room in the nursery at my church. Yesterday I snuggled the sweetest three month old baby, and I got some serious baby giggles out of him the first half hour. Then, he was sleepy and snuggly the second half hour. Perfection!
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Megan
Reply to Laura
June 3, 2024 7:45 pm
❤️❤️❤️
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Anon
June 3, 2024 3:34 pm
If you are in a mood to watch something heartwarming and don’t mind reading subtitles, please go watch “Laapataa Ladies” on Netflix.
Highly highly recommended!:)
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Anokhi
Reply to Anon
June 3, 2024 11:22 pm
OMG the bestest Hindi movie in a long long time! Highly recommend others to watch with subtitles.
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Juhi
Reply to Anon
June 4, 2024 6:47 am
Yes to this! What an amazing, amazing movie, and how beautifully it showed women supporting women
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Beth
June 3, 2024 3:31 pm
We’ve had a few unexpected costs pile up (most significantly replacing our dryer and car which both broke in the same week – eek!) but this weekend was a great distraction from adulting stress. We did a tiny 5K at our local park and afterward the kids got to don hard hats and go on a cave tour. I had no idea we had full blown caves just minutes from our house! We also went to a Triple AAA baseball game with some friends, did a miraculously harmonious (no complaining!) family hike, and ended the weekend at a new-to-us climbing gym. Getting out in nature and moving my body is always so restorative. The perfect balm for a stressful week.
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Helen
June 3, 2024 3:28 pm
I’m very very proud of and glad for the role models who are undoing some of the toxic intensity around sports.
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Sarah
Reply to Helen
June 3, 2024 7:13 pm
Agreed! My 17yo son has had two consecutive seasons of competitive basketball with young (21 and 28yo) male coaches and both have been respectful and kind while also being intense and leading winning teams. So happy to have them as role models for these young men (as I’ve made a point of telling them!).
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Agnès
June 3, 2024 3:28 pm
I lost my 94 year old dad 2 weeks ago , he had alzheimer, he knew the names of so many birds and loved poetry. I feel sad and at peace and think a lot about poetry, death and the intensity of life. Grief is like carrying a secret, very delicate and also fragile. I wouldn’t share it with anybody but I feel i want to share it here. Love from Paris
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Elizabeth
Reply to Agnès
June 3, 2024 3:38 pm
Thinking of you, Agnès ❤️
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Ana D.
Reply to Agnès
June 3, 2024 3:41 pm
I’m so sorry Agnès. Sending thoughts of love and remembrance.
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Laura
Reply to Agnès
June 3, 2024 4:04 pm
Thinking of you, Agnès. Thank you for sharing your grief and the sweet details about your Dad here. Currently caring for one parent with Alzheimer’s and feeling sad about another who recently went into memory care in another state. I love that you remember your Dad as knowing the names of so many birds and loving poetry. My gentle, dignified father in law is a retired zoologist who, despite having advanced dementia, is the first to notice the birds nesting above the porch. Your description of grief feels exactly right to me. Sending you love and continued peace as you navigate this time.
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Claire
Reply to Agnès
June 3, 2024 5:34 pm
I am sorry to read of your loss. I wish you even more comfort and peace, and may there be many gifts amongst the sorrow.
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Tara
Reply to Agnès
June 3, 2024 5:45 pm
Oh Agnes, I am glad you shared here. Your father sounds like an amazing man–and the love you shared for each other and the love you both had for poetry and birds will be with you always. There is joy in that continuum, even as you process grief and sadness around his passing. You are so right that grief is like carrying a delicate secret. And it is OK to let it wash over you–as it will at times. Please take comfort in knowing how much he loved you. xoxo
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Rebecca
Reply to Agnès
June 3, 2024 6:08 pm
Thank you for sharing this beautiful comment with us. I am sending you all the best.
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Dottie
Reply to Agnès
June 4, 2024 4:03 pm
So sorry for your loss. I hope that the birds, poetry and memories of your Dad bring you comfort.
I was just in Paris and we listened to new bird songs and were shocked to see the rose-ringed parakeets. Your Dad might have found them to be a nuisance, since they are not native and bother the local birds. I’m wondering if he ever talked with you about them.
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Amy
Reply to Agnès
June 4, 2024 11:15 pm
Hello and a sad welcome to The Dead Dad Club. It’s inevitable and it’s hard but also how lucky we were to have good dads – because that is not guaranteed! Given your dad’s love of poetry can I please suggest The Jaguar by Sarah Holland-Batt? It is very beautiful with poems about grief and love and fathers. Sending love from An Internet Stranger. 💛
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Agnès
Reply to Agnès
June 5, 2024 12:45 am
Thank you so much for your thoughful words. Dottie you have a sharp eye! It’s always strange and a bit magical to see those birds in Paris (so many of them!), aparently they are of no threats to the locals… there are so many stories about why there are so many (escaped from the airport, a circus, a zoo etc)…
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